Pregnancy week 19: finding out the sex, second time round

May 24, 2014

Pregnancy week 19…what can you expect from week 19 of pregnancy in the second trimester?

19 weeks pregnant - a pregnancy bump shot and update during the second trimester

I’m talking about sex…baby. No, not like that, gutter minds. But about finding out the sex of your baby at the 20 week scan. And if it’s any different the second time round.

We found out last time. Alex and I were both equally as impatient to know, and I even asked at the 12 week scan (they wouldn’t or couldn’t tell, obviously). I then spent hours looking up obscure old wives tales and gender prediction theories, so when the next scan came round I was utterly convinced we were expecting a boy. When they told us it was a girl I nearly fell off the table.

One of my colleagues had tried to convince me not to find out, saying it is the biggest surprise of your life and you should keep it that way until you’ve given birth. However, I don’t think anything could ever have been as surprising as finding out when we did. Plus I was so utterly shellshocked by the whole gory glory of giving birth that I think the surprise would have been completely lost on me at that point.

I know there are arguments either way based on bonding and planning, but it’s such a self preference. And basically, it’s still a huge surprise whenever you find out, isn’t it?

At pregnancy week 19, as we approach the next scan, I’ve been thinking about not finding out second time round. Especially as of my friends did find out with her first baby, but kept it a secret this time and really recommended it (hi Emily!) I’m actually not as impatient this time, as I think when you have one baby, something different would be fun but more of the same is also great.

However, all being well, I don’t think we will wait – who am I kidding?

So did you, and also, did or would you do it differently the second time round?

19 weeks pregnant - a pregnancy update and bump shot at 19 weeks pregnant

19 weeks pregnant - a bumpy shot and pregnancy updates

Pregnancy week 19 - a weekly diary of pregnancy updates. This week - 19 weeks pregnancy and the second trimester

That was pregnancy week 19…here are my pregnancy updates at 18 weeks, week 17, week 16, week 15, week 14, and the first trimester.

17 Comments

  • Vickie Rich

    May 24, 2014 at 11:06 am

    We wanted to find out and were told girl at the 12 week scan. Then boy at an emergency 18 week scan. Then girl at the 20 week scan and finally boy at an emergency 30 week scan. So in the end we had the “what’ve we got” moment at the birth afterall. We had a girl. 🙂

    Good luck for your upcoming scan!

    1. gillian

      May 24, 2014 at 2:08 pm

      Oh my goodness! I can’t believe they got it wrong so many times! Blimey. Must have been a surprise every single time. Glad to hear all was OK in the end though (and thank you!) x

  • PhotoPuddle

    May 24, 2014 at 11:49 am

    We didn’t find out first time round. I liked the idea of an amazing surprise that I would be happy about either way. We did find our second time around though for a few reasons. Firstly, it was hubby’s turn to get his own way as he’d wanted to find out before. Also practically it helped to know whether to start sorting out the pink baby stuff or whether the new baby would need a new wardrobe. I think it was nice to be able to tell our daughter that she was getting a baby brother. And finally I was pleased to find out I was having a boy as I think I needed to time to get my hear around having a son after three years of all things girly.

    1. gillian

      May 24, 2014 at 2:14 pm

      I was going to ask which you preferred but I guess it suited you perfectly each time? Interesting that you took turns – not sure what we’d have done in that instance (luckily both of us wanted to find out!) x

  • Hannah Budding Smiles

    May 24, 2014 at 8:09 pm

    Neither my husband or I wanted to find out, this is our first and we’ve not really been tempted although with only 6ish weeks to go I’m getting so eager to meet Baby C and find out! We’re not sure whether we’d find out next time (assuming we’re lucky enough to have a second) I guess we’ll decide as and when the time comes. Exciting times! Xx

  • Emma Whitehurst

    May 24, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    I found out first time….no way could we wait! It was a girl. But didn’t second time and I must say it was really exciting at that moment when baby arrived….a boy! I felt that second time, knowing how difficult labour is, I wanted that little surprise at the end. On balance I preferred not knowing and would not find out again. Not that there will be anymore…..2 is harder than you ever expect!! Good luck.

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  • Gaynor {Our Day by Design}

    May 26, 2014 at 2:08 pm

    We found out with Holden at the 20 week scan, however the radiographer said it was a boy but wasn’t exactly completely reassuring so we also went for a 4D scan ourselves which confirmed it was a boy! We always knew we would find out as it made planning / names so much easier and if we have another we would definitely find out again.

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  • Tina George

    June 10, 2014 at 8:04 am

    Gillan the photos are nice and you got an awesome bump. Hope you are doing great. Take up your chance go ahead either way its going to be a surprise

    1. gillian

      June 14, 2014 at 10:42 pm

      Thanks so much!

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