Pregnancy Anxiety: How To Cope With Anxiety During Pregnancy
How To Cope With Fear And Anxiety During Pregnancy
If You’re Struggling With Pregnancy Anxiety, Here’s How To Cope With Ante-Natal Anxiety And First Trimester Fears
It’s more common than you’d think to have pregnancy anxiety. Here’s how to cope with anxiety during pregnancy, and my own experience of pregnancy anxiety and fears during pregnancy.
Are You Struggling With Pregnancy Anxiety?
One thing I thought about when re-reading my post on what no-one tells you about pregnancy is that no-one ever really talks about pregnancy anxiety and fear in pregnancy, or about mental health during pregnancy.
I suffered from pregnancy anxiety both during both of my pregnancies, especially during the first trimester of my first pregnancy, so here’s how I coped with it.
First Time Pregnancy Fears
When you’re in the first trimester of pregnancy it’s all new and exciting and a million other things at once. It can also feel daunting and scary. I can be incredibly anxious at the best of times (!) but during my first trimester was when I first experienced pregnancy anxiety, and when my anxiety was the worst.
In the first trimester (and indeed, your first pregnancy) you don’t really know what’s happening, or going to happen; even if you read a LOT of pregnancy books it’s still all unchartered territory.
Every twinge or strange pregnancy symptom is noteworthy and often a cause for curiosity, if not concern.
Fertility Problems And Pregnancy Anxiety:
We tried for a while to get pregnant and when it finally happened and I had that long-awaited positive result, it didn’t seem real. I was absolutely elated at first, but also overwhelmed with emotion and the enormity of the occasion, and pregnancy anxiety set in very soon.
I felt like I’d so desperately wanted to be being pregnant for so long that it was bound to slip away from me.
I felt, almost, like I didn’t deserve it.
Pregnancy Symptoms And Worry
A big source of pregnancy anxiety for me was around my early pregnancy symptoms and specifically morning sickness. I know now that morning sickness is different for everyone. For me, it meant feeling very dizzy and nauseous like I was hungover (without any of the drinking beforehand!)
But every depiction of morning sickness I’d ever seen on TV or read about in book was of people running off to be sick in between eating pickles and ice cream. I didn’t feel like that. I wasn’t physically sick. I didn’t know if that meant I wasn’t pregnant ‘enough.’
As a result, a lot of my time – sat at my desk, on my daily commute, at home each evening – was spent wondering if my symptoms had lessened – do I feel as sick as yesterday? I feel less tired today, what does that mean? Why do I feel…normal today…?
Due to pregnancy anxiety I took several pregnancy tests over a couple of weeks, obsessing over the result and expecting each time that the positive result would disappear. Or that the line was less dark which clearly would signify…nothing good.
It also didn’t help that I’d spent a long time reading message boards online where a lot of worst-case scenarios are discussed. And as there wouldn’t be any confirmation I was having a normal pregnancy until the first scan at 12 weeks, which goes really slowly, you have a lot of time to think. I was fully expecting to get to the scan and for them to find nothing there.
And it’s likely that not many people know at this point – we didn’t even tell our parents until week 10 – so there wasn’t really anyone I could discuss the minor points with at length, especially not about how to cope with pregnancy fears and anxieties.
Coping With Pregnancy Anxieties – A Turning Point
The biggest turning point was obviously the dating scan. I was so incredibly nervous beforehand, and as soon as I saw my baby on the screen I burst into tears and cried so much they had to pause the scan.
Seeing my baby on the screen convinced me that it was real (of course!). And having the confirmation that all was fine was a massive weight off my mind.
Pregnancy fear and anxiety didn’t vanish entirely though. In the earlier stages, where you don’t have regular movements, I often felt anxious. And in the second trimester, I had a couple of bleeds (including one I spent two nights in hospital for). But it was a lot easier with everything being out in the ‘open.’
Six Tips On How To Cope With Anxiety During Pregnancy
- Realise that pregnancy can be an emotional rollercoaster at the best of times! Hormonal changes mean emotional changes are inevitable. But pregnancy anxiety is still horrible
- Stay off Dr Google and message boards. People can be wonderfully supportive during pregnancy online, but also be harbingers of gloom and these people are all unqualified. For every positive story there are many negatives and it’s easy to dwell on these without knowing the facts. Reading all this is not good for pregnancy anxiety.
- Stick to well-known, qualified sources if you’re reading anything online (NHS, sites like BabyCentre where information will have been checked and verified)
- Talk to your midwife or doctor if you’re worried about pregnancy anxiety or your maternal mental health is suffering (most hospitals will give you a midwife ‘helpline’ for you to call)
- One thing I might consider next time – if there is a next time! – is to pay to go for an earlier scan at around eight weeks so there’s not so much time spend waiting, wondering and worrying.
- Experience helps with pregnancy anxiety – second time round I was much more relaxed in the first trimester as I knew that was how my body ‘did’ morning sickness.
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