How to keep your early pregnancy a secret…shh!
Need some ideas about how to keep your early pregnancy a secret?
Just found out that you are pregnant and have a baby on board? Congratulations! Here are some ideas for how you can keep your early pregnancy a secret.
Suspect you might be pregnant but are not 100% sure? make sure you read my list of early pregnancy symptoms.
While some people like to tell everyone the news about their pregnancy straight away, others might like to wait longer. If that is you, you might be desperately trying to think of ways to throw people off the scent about impending motherhood and the fact that you are pregnant.
(Photo is from my last pregnancy announcement, at twelve weeks pregnant. Teeny tiny toddler!)
For various reasons, lots of people choose not to make the news public until the 12 week scan. Of course everyone’s different and it’s up to you and when you feel comfortable sharing the news – but I spent the first trimester of pregnancy in happy shock after a tricky time conceiving. I both wanted to keep it a secret for us and was also half convinced there was nothing in there so didn’t want to tell anyone till we knew for sure (read my post on dealing with pregnancy anxiety).
Lots of people’s pre-baby social life consists of socialising a fair few nights of the week and cancelling everything for ten or so weeks is unavoidable. Especially if you work – as I did – in an industry that involves work parties, lunches, dinners with lots of wine and so on…so there’s a lot of opportunities for people to guess so you need some good cover stories.
Firstly, in terms of how to keep your early pregnancy a secret:
- DON’T tell people you’re not drinking because you’re taking antibiotics – you might as well just wave your positive pregnancy test around. If you’re at a certain age / stage it will be obvious
- DON’T deny it if people ask – what? Sounds weird, but if people are direct enough to confront you with it, it’s best to bluff – say ‘of course!’ then laugh it off as a joke. It will be much less obvious that turning bright red and stumbling around for a cover story.
Here’s some better cover stories for why you’re not drinking and socialising and some ideas for how to keep your early pregnancy a secret.
How to keep your pregnancy secret:
- You’re driving Tell everyone you can’t have a drink as you are driving. No-one can argue with this. although it only works if you actually do drive, and not if you’re in central London and clearly commute to work via the tube you live next door to…
- You’re still really hungover from last night and OMG can’t even face hair of the dog: This is a genuinely good cover story. And also a good cover story for morning sickness, and telling people why you are various shades of green / grey and running off to be sick lots
- You’re taking part in booze-free Dry January Or February, March and so on, or a sponsored alcohol-free charity
- Say you’ve had a couple of drinks already and feel really drunk: Say you are a lightweight, or drank on an empty stomach, it’s gone to your head, you’re feeling woozy, that kind of thing. So just to be on the safe side you’re sticking to water till you sober up a bit
- Say nothing at all: Accept a drink and hold it or take small sips. Do the lemonade-in-a-wine-glass trick. Pretend you’re drinking something-clear-with-a-mixer. I had to do this at a very boozy wedding with my second pregnancy. People didn’t notice a thing (and I found out after I wasn’t the only one! I had no clue either).
Are you trying to keep your early pregnancy a secret? Let me know how it goes! Read more...how to get a baby on board badge, my first pregnancy week-by-week and my second pregnancy diary week-by-week and what no-one tells you about pregnancy And make sure you follow my Gill_Crawshaw Instagram account.