Everything I’ve completely forgotten about newborns

July 30, 2014

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So as I write this I’m 29 and a half weeks pregnant and now into the third trimester, aka that bit at the end that’s scarily close to the big bit *right* at the end.

Do we feel ready? Well we have made a start now, and it’s starting to feel exciting, but it’s ages away, isn’t it? Isn’t it? Does it seem any more real yet? Hmm, not quite sure…

It’s been a surprisingly trouble-free pregnancy so far this time round, so it does feel like I’ve been coasting along, somewhat. Second-time round there’s no unlimited hours of free time to obsess, deliberate and contemplate. And luckily enough, no medical scares or unexpected hospital visits this time. Life has pretty much continued as normal, as it has to when you have a toddler.

And that’s the thing. I am so used to having a toddler now that I’m worried I won’t remember what it’s like to have to have a new baby. Getting all the tiny things out of storage has made me remember lots of things about newborns I’d completely forgotten.

It’s a whole other language to the one we’re currently speaking. There’s a different dictionary of lost words and terms; winding, colic, cradle cap, cracked nipples, mastitis. Plus a medicine cabinet that still needs to be rammed with all the remedies.

There’s whole map of unchartered places. Baby clinic with the red book entry ticket. Doctors surgeries and the nurses’s office for vaccinations. Breastfeeding drop-ins, rhyme time and baby groups.

And sleep. They’re awake when you want to be asleep, and vice-versa. Just when we’d got used to the luxury of full nights and a toddler who puts herself into bed.

Then there’s the sheer amount of stuff that comes with newborns. The proper pram and baby insert. Car seats, adapters, monitors, blankets and 50,000 tiny baby gros. And even if you breastfeed there’s sterilisers, pumps, milk bags, nursing bras…

You have to worry constantly about temperature control. Hot weather doesn’t just equal getting the paddling pool out and having another ice lolly. How do we work the baby thermometer again?

Outfit choices are more about the practicality of ‘how many layers?’ rather than ‘this looks good AND it works for potty training’

You can’t just turn Peppa on when you want five minutes to sit down and check your email. And you can’t just let them watch Go Diego Go on the iPad when they wake up at 5.45am and you’re not ready to face the day yet for a few hours.

When they cry, you can’t say “what’s wrong?” and get an answer. Or make it better with a magic plaster. They cry and cry and you have no idea why (pretty similar to my pregnant self, really).

But on the plus side, you won’t put them down and find them wearing your most expensive lipstick on their toes two minutes later, they won’t eat your cake, and you don’t have to chase them round the house with a toothbrush each evening.

And, of course, there’s also all the great bits about newborns I’ve also forgotten. How warm and squishy they are. The nuzzling. The new baby smell. Getting to know this tiny and amazing little creature. The sheer surreal amazement of it all.

Every second-time mum I’ve met tells me it’s much easier the next time round. Relief. But do you just remember what it’s all like and what to do? I’m hoping it all comes flooding back. The good news, though, is I can’t possibly be as clueless as I was first time round.

The photo is ‘vintage’ Instagram, of Eliza’s newborn socks. How tiny? I’m Gill_C if you want to follow me.

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13 Comments

  • Eleanor (thebristolparent)

    July 30, 2014 at 9:32 am

    I held one on Monday (belonging to a Welsh mutual friend of ours!). It was like riding a bike. But a bit less bumpy and I wasn’t wearing cameltoe inducing shorts or a helmet. You’ll be awesome.

  • Fiona

    July 30, 2014 at 12:27 pm

    Aaaaah look at all those tiny socks *ovaries explode*
    I always think having a baby was sooo much easier than a toddler, but that’s probably just mother nature making me forget, right? Oh babies, lovely.

  • Kathryn (@KatGotTheCream)

    July 30, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    It will all come flooding back I promise and you’ll feel like a pro in comparison to the first time (nothing compares to the shock of that, in my experience ha!). And you’ve got all the lovely magical newborn stuff again – such a yummy time!

  • Alison

    July 30, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    Oh God the temperature control and layers thing! I was rubbish at that. G was pretty much always too hot or too cold and I remember panicking that other mums were giving me judgey glares over it!! Argh.

  • fritha

    July 30, 2014 at 8:31 pm

    it’s funny isn’t it, friends with younger babies often ask me ‘did Wild do this’ or ‘you know when’ and I realise I can’t remember most of the time. It’s such a blur! I’m really excited for you and it’s so close now! xx

  • laura redburn

    July 31, 2014 at 8:44 am

    love this! the bit about the lipstick on the toes made me laugh out loud. i assume that actually happened?

  • Carie

    July 31, 2014 at 10:26 pm

    It’s definitely easier the second time round – I promise it all comes flooding back and you just feel more confident in what you’re doing because it’s not all so very new; you’re going to be fine!

  • lori

    August 1, 2014 at 11:30 am

    All of my second time round mama friends have said that it’s a breeze although the thought of it does freak me out. More about when they cry and you can’t appease with them with treats 😉 x

  • Molly

    August 1, 2014 at 9:01 pm

    YES! The new baby smell – the most amazing smell ever. I must admit, I’m also a bit scared about venturing down the no sleep path again. But I figure I did it before and survived, so I can do it again. For me, the thing I’m most scared about (above all else!) is the school run. I know, ridiculous right? But I remember how long it took to get out of the house when F was a newborn, and I know how long it takes to persuade her to get dressed now. No idea how I’ll get them both up, dressed and fed in time for 8.30am every day. Help!

  • Melaina25

    August 2, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    I’m allowed to live in denial about eventually having a newborn right? I mean it isn’t here yet so I don’t have to worry about it…right?

    ☼Transatlantic Blonde☼

  • Milly Sell

    August 2, 2014 at 5:10 pm

    As a first-timer I’m envious that you all this past experience! Just reading the list of equipment and terms makes me start to panic … am going to be asking my experienced Mummy friends what to do every 2 seconds!

  • ghostwritermummy

    August 4, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    Actually, to throw a spanner in the works, I found 2nd time around a lot harder… mainly because I had a difficult birth and refluxy baby!! But honestly it all does come back to you fairly easily and although I am now expecting baby number 4 I understand your worries because I too am wondering how on earth I will be able to look after a newborn. Its so lovely when natural instincts kick in 🙂
    x x

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