How to keep your early pregnancy a secret…shh!

Need some ideas about how to keep your early pregnancy a secret? The post-Christmas and New Year period is one of the most popular times of the year for finding out that you are pregnant and have a baby on board (If you suspect something is up but are not sure if you’re pregnant, check out this list of early pregnancy symptoms. If you are sure, congratulations!) And so. right now you might be desperately trying to think of ways to throw people off the scent about impending motherhood.

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(Photo is from my last pregnancy announcement, at twelve weeks pregnant. Teeny tiny toddler!)

For various reasons, lots of people choose not to make the news public until the 12 week scan. Of course everyone’s different and it’s up to you and when you feel comfortable sharing the news – but I spent the first trimester of pregnancy in happy shock after a tricky time conceiving. I both wanted to keep it a secret for us and was also half convinced there was nothing in there so didn’t want to tell anyone till we knew for sure (read my post on dealing with pregnancy anxiety).

Lots of people’s pre-baby social life consists of socialising a fair few nights of the week and cancelling everything for ten or so weeks is unavoidable. Especially if you work – as I did – in an industry that involves work parties, lunches, dinners with lots of wine and so on…so there’s a lot of opportunities for people to guess so you need some good cover stories.

Firstly, in terms of how to keep your early pregnancy a secret:




  • DON’T tell people you’re not drinking because you’re taking antibiotics – you might as well just wave your positive pregnancy test around. If you’re at a certain age / stage it will be obvious
  • DON’T deny it if people ask – what? Sounds weird, but if people are direct enough to confront you with it, it’s best to bluff – say ‘of course!’ then laugh it off as a joke. It will be much less obvious that turning bright red and stumbling around for a cover story.

Here’s some better cover stories for why you’re not drinking and socialisingand some ideas for how to keep your early pregnancy a secret:

  • You’re driving (no-one can argue with this. although it only works if you actually do drive, and not if you’re in central London and clearly commute to work via the tube you live next door to)
  • You’re still really hungover from last night and OMG can’t even face hair of the dog:. Also a good cover story for being green / grey and running off to be sick lots
  • Dry January (or February, March and so on): Inevitable at this time of the year, and very plausible
  • You’ve had a couple of drinks already and feel really drunk: Lightweight, empty stomach, gone to your head, feeling woozy, that kind of thing. So you’re sticking to water till you sober up a bit
  • Say nothing at all: Accept a drink and hold it or take small sips (do the lemonade-in-a-wine-glass trick). Pretend you’re drinking something-with-a-mixer. I had to do this at a very boozy wedding with my second pregnancy. People didn’t notice a thing (and I found out after I wasn’t the only one! I had no clue either).

How to kee your early pregnancy a secret when you're not quite ready to tell - five cover stories to throw people off the scent and explain why you're not socialising or drinking. Make sure you read the full post if you're expecting a baby!




Are you trying to keep your early pregnancy a secret? Let me know how it goes! Read more...how to get a baby on board badge, my first pregnancy week-by-week and my second pregnancy diary week-by-week and what no-one tells you about pregnancy

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